Life Update: Grieving the Loss of My Mother and Losing Lipedema Weight

The last six months have been a very challenging journey, and it’s been a while since I’ve spoken with you lovely ladies. Truth is, I miss the community and connection we share as women with Lipedema. I’d love to share more about my life with you here, and encourage you all to discover new levels of confidence and self-love as I give you a window into my healing journey.

So, where do I begin? Most of you may not know that on January 3, 2022 I lost my dear beloved Mother to a rare form of cancer. I vastly underestimated the amount of devotion, endurance and focus it would take for me to be fully present with my family as we nursed my Mom during hospice. Back in October 2021, my Father relocated to California to seek support from my Sister and me as she transitioned to the final chapter in her stage IV cancer journey. To witness my Mother go through excruciating difficulties near the end of her life was a wake up call for me.

I won’t sugar coat it y’all. I’m devastated over the loss of my Mama, but also incredibly inspired to appreciate life and go after my dreams. She believed in me, loved me unconditionally and supported my desires to the fullest. Walking with her through the final days of her life to the moment she took her last breath, I witnessed the pure grit and strength of the woman who birthed me into the world. Moreover, I was shocked to learn that my Mother actually birthed all six of her children naturally – with no anesthesia. Wow. She was one tough cookie…and she dealt with Lipedema too. I wouldn’t wish cancer on anyone after seeing how ugly this disease can get at the end. I will be forever grateful for her fortitude and willingness to hold on throughout the holidays for us.

As I sort through the grief and emotions arising to the surface following her passing, I look to my faith and her strength to push forward toward the dreams she encouraged me to go after. I recently decided to leave my home state of 20 years, California, to expand beyond this region and continue my journey of healing and self-discovery. I plan to take you along with me for these travels. I’m packing and preparing to move out of my place by April 30 and travel across the United States, visit NYC for the first time in my life, and then head to Central and South America.

Another focus of mine lately has been losing weight with Lipedema, and getting into a more energetic and healthy place physically. I’ve been strength conditioning with a personal trainer at the gym, and recently starting making changes toward a healthier diet. Maintaining your weight is crucial to slowing the progression of Lipedema, but more than anything, working on my fitness is helping my mental health. So far, I have only lost about 8lbs, but I’ve gained muscle and I feel more balance and stability. Pretty sure I’ve lost a few inches, but I’ll take some measurements and update you ladies this week on my current Lipedema fitness regimen.

I look forward to sharing more of my transformation and travels with you as I embark on this new chapter of life. Thank you to those of you who follow me @lipladyfab that gave me encouragement.

Drop a comment below if you’re in the midst of a big life change too, or you can relate to any of what I’ve shared today:


3 thoughts on “Life Update: Grieving the Loss of My Mother and Losing Lipedema Weight

  1. Thank you I am switching to a new position after 20 plus years. It might be the last position I hold before I retire. I too am thinking about relocating outside of the US. It’s springtime in the northern hemisphere and I’m purging the things I don’t need. I want to know your packing light desert island 🏝️ couldn’t live without it choices for daily compression garments. My legs been feeling heavy lately and I haven’t been consistently wearing the garments I need to. Please share your wisdom.

  2. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful mom. I lost my mom in January of 2020. My heart aches everyday for her. Prayers and hugs!

  3. So very sorry for your loss, Crystal. There is no loss quite like the loss of our Mom. Took me ten years to recover from the trauma of living through my own Mom’s last week’s and days on earth. What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Having said that, I would have preferred a less traumatic road on my journey to strength.

    You write well, by the way. And looking forward to hearing about your adventures in Central and South America.

    Regards, Anita ( also a Lipedema Lady)

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